This is what I've come up with thus far - in blue:
How are you doing? I think I over did it last night. My left calf is killing me and it affects how I walk. I’m going to take a few nights off from that. Probably a good idea. Sorry it's hurting - can try some motrin and put some stuff on it and maybe sit in the tub would be a good .
No, this is blatant pursuit... giving him advice on how to care for his poor calf isn't gonna help, you are walking right into his pocket...
Originally Posted By: SunnyD
That was my attempt at small talk. :o) Nothing wrong with small talk. :-)
I would just ignore this one too...
Originally Posted By: SunnyD
Maybe we should talk about things. I know they are not where you want them and I wonder how long you can go with things as they are.
You have made huge improvements and I don’t want you to think they have gone unnoticed. Thank you for your efforts. :o)
Thank you for noticing. I do feel better about myself than I have in a LONG time. I know I can reach my goals instead of doubting myself or feeling hopeless. It's a very good feeling in that regard. Are things with you and I where I want them? No - you're right, they aren't. For the most part, I've just been doing as we discussed before and focusing on me though. I have no idea where you are at in your thoughts so I would love to hear them. I have been thinking a lot on what a healthy relationship is and how it looks - how it feels - how it sounds - all of that - and that's what I want.
If we both want a healthier marriage we both need to learn how to do that - I will be attending family therapy and doing the necessary readings... I am determined to be an adult about our situation.
Am I happy about the rebelliousness and the secret keeping?
No, its blantantly destructive to a healhty household and I dont' want it in my home.
Am I going to stop you? No... I am going to be an adult and do my 50% of the work like I should be.
I don't want to talk. We don't know how to repair this on our own, few people do know how.. that's why they have professionals who know how and do a great job... When my car is broken I take it to an auto mechanic, when my leg is broken I take that to a medical professional... our marriage is broken.. that needs a family therapist... Netiher one of us are so I will be taking our marriage to a family therapist.
I will be making regular visits to learn how to improve our marriage.
When I am comfortable with you attending I will let you know... But right now I will be going on my own...
Originally Posted By: SunnyD
Do you want to share your thoughts now? Is it easier to write it down or talk in person? I don't have a problem with us talking in person, but often I find I communicate better in writing for some reason... in conveying my true feelings. Of course, that's assuming they are read on the receiving end as they are intended while I'm writing. :-)
Me
Right now I don't want to talk about anything serious in person. If you have anything constructive to say please put it in writing.
