Thanks... I have not replied so far. I've been contemplating what to say but have no yet responded. I will post here before sending. I've waited a good hour at this point.
You don't HAVE to reply...
He's been belligerent about owning any damage in the marriage thus far and wont' see a family therapist, you may find the best thin to do is just ignore him until HE starts apologizing...
That's teh thing, when people get on their high horse a dynamic is initiated.. they try to get YOU humbled and begging for THEIR time and forgiveness...
When you resist this you throw them off kilter...
Right nwo he's acting like he's the big hero and he's the one with all the cards and YOU owe HIM a better marriage... If you cater to that dynamic then he's just going to CONTINUE it and MILK it for all its worth...
I am not saying be difficult with him, I am just saying not to immediately fall into the dyanmic he's setting up.. its all ubiquitous but its there...
