[quote=dday101798] I have been told to expect bad days and backwards steps. I assume I can do nothing but support her and be strong and confident in our future. Am I right about this?
Yep. Even after we moved back in together, my H pulled a hissy fit one night because I mentioned in passing that there where other people who were hurt by the cyclone of events that were the melt down of our marriage. Because that happened to include a guy that was wrongly accused of having an affair with me, ... he had quite the hissy. Wounds run deep. Even know, I have a hard time forgetting what has happened between us. Reconsiling is really only the first step. The dc phil approach to affairs makes sense. Your job about making her secure stops when SHE no longer needs it. You stop paying for that sin when SHEEEEEE no longer needs reassurance. Approach it that way and you'll have a greater expectation of success.
Abbey
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
