Thankns, Puppy.
I hope my last post is the direction you'd like to see more of.
I'd also like Sandi's perspective as well.

I had a thought this morning, though.

What would I need to do differently if there is no affair. The longer this goes the less likely it appears that there is one.
Again, I'll get some intel on where she is going but something doesn't seem to fit.

Perhaps this really is just a growing friendshipo with this girlfriend and the guy at work is a coincidence. There is a huge piece missing.
The reason I ask is that, if it turns out there isn't one, will my dropping the rope completely adversely affect her ability to come out of this cleanly.

I know it's imperative in a PA, but if it isn't will my actions do more damage than good?

Thanks, PDT