Look at Elvencat's thread, the OW in her thread is outright MOCKING her on facebook and even in public... attacking her verbally and enjoying how much pain she's putting Elvencat through...
Compare that to say the OM in TWolf's household situation... that OM won't talk to TWolf at all..he AVOIDS him...
Some OP are just worse than others and that measn accountability shifts...
SOme people dont' care about teh damage they do and some even ENJOY IT... Some make efforts to be an adult, and others don't even WANT to be an adult.. you can't hold them all equally accountable...
