ok, i won't quibble with the numbers, as long as we understand the bulk of the blame is on the predator... and each case may differ a bit... in my wife's case in particular she had experienced one VERY BAD weekend and less than two weeks later some creep is hitting on her in a chatroom... and she made dozens of attempts to ask OM TO LEAVE and he woudln'T... even her best friend told OM to go away and stop manipulating her and he refused... I think each case is going to differ slightly... but for the moment I will accept 60%... In my household's case its more like 90/10... OM in my household never made a single attempt to end the affair... not one... and she told him numerous times she had to end things... he woudln't listen
