What to Do Next

[loweinsd51]

Sandi - I took this from another thread inwhich you recently posted:

Do you belive that people should be educated on thes facts.

Of course I do! However, if your W in involved in an A then it is difficult for her to be teachable. It's like leading a horse to water....you can't make the horse drink it. It's my personal belief that a WAW would be more teachable about the facts when delivered from another person, b/c she has built a wall to keep whatever you say out.

I'm just saying that most of the H's try to verbalize all this information in an attempt to stop the W from leaving the M. But she has so much negative feelings toward him, that it gets in the way of her "learning" from his verbal attempts to educate her.

I think that carefully chosen statements that are thought out in advance...can be "responses" to things the WAW may thow at you. Short but packed with hard punches. What I try to tell LBH's is that when it begins to sound as if he is so much better than she is.....and if it begans to sound like a sermon, you've lost her b/c she will rebel against it, simply b/c it came from "you".

I have now seen the light about trying to "educate" my WW which is what you and PDT have been trying to tell me all along.