Heartbroken and needing help!

[irishblessings]

I can only keep saying thank you! This is a very lonely journey and loneliness has been something I have spent a lifetime avoiding. Something I read said that the difference between feeling lonely and being alone is when you are lonely - someone is just away but will return. Alone is when there is no one coming home. For me - this is how I feel about H. I never felt lonely with him. So I've gone straight to the alone side. Rationally of course I know that I'm not alone - but right or wrong I built my whole life around him and the kids.
I realized yesterday during IC that I have always identified myself as a wife and mother. Never as a woman or an individual. I guess this is now the gift of this horrid situation. I have to begin to define myself as a mother and a woman.
BTW - had never discussed this site with IC and was grateful to know she was aware of the site and truly supportive of the guidance, messages and support available here. You all are GREAT!