Scwred up and need advice

[CPCajun]

Thanks Puppy. I am slowly learning the right(or better) things to do.

[CPCajun]

Now my wife text me about she wants new speakers in the truck. hmmm...Didn't she just serve me with D papers yesterday. Is this part of her opening back up to me?

I did not respond to this text or one she text me earlier in the day stating, when she went to drop off the horse trailer at the arena, the circus was in town. She has been away from me for less than a day. You cannot tell me the WAW syndrome is already breaking down on her?

Should I start communication with her or should I ignore her(stay dark) as I am doing and only reply if it something serious?*edit* I know my answer. I'll let the tension to talk or text build. This trip she took may work out for the best. ,-I just noticed these guys.

[CPCajun]

Crap, I screwed up once again.

My wife was having issues with her computer late last night. She tried texting me and calling, but I didn't return any of them right away. I then replied back that I received the voice mail and text, but I was just getting back in from being out. I have the copy of the text below. I know I shouldn't talk about R but accusing me of seeing other women really hurt me.


W -I tried to call u but u don't answer. Hope everything ok!

M -Sorry I am just getting back in. Everything is fine.

W -Tryin to get my computer to get online and it won't .

M -I can talk you thru it to get it to work.

W -Ok call me

Calling
(I helped her out and was in the process of telling her bye, but then she started with who I went out with. I said I went out, had a good time and needed to get off to bed. Bye)

W -I don't u just confirmed it u tellin "just out" tells me (meaning the with someone)

M -And am I not allowed to go out now?

W -No go out !!! But just beware u start
Dating I will too

M -Beware of what?

W -Never mind


M -One I said I went out. I never said it was with anyone. Two I DO NOT want to
date, I want to save our marriage. I have not and would never go to another
woman. It is not me. I may have my faults to correct, but being with another
woman is not even on my mind.

Just to let you know, I was out with someone. I took the kids out for putt putt
and supper. I know I have not been perfect, but. I am willing to change and be
the best father and husband I can be to all three of our kids and to my wife. We
had fun, I had fun. I told them I am sorry we did not do this before, but we
will try to have a family night once a month. I don't care what it cost but we
need to go out and have fun.

[Coach]

Boudreaux, This is what you want -

I said I went out, had a good time and needed to get off to bed. Bye)

then get off the phone and watch her pursue you.

She serves you with D papers, wants you to do things for you - speakers & help with computer. Then she gets her knickers in a twist when you get mysterious?!

Stay mysterious and she is going to try and tag you again. Turn her down and watch how she acts. Be catnip.

You can handle it.

[CPCajun]

Boudreaux, This is what you want -

I said I went out, had a good time and needed to get off to bed. Bye)

then get off the phone and watch her pursue you.

She serves you with D papers, wants you to do things for you - speakers & help with computer. Then she gets her knickers in a twist when you get mysterious?!

Stay mysterious and she is going to try and tag you again. Turn her down and watch how she acts. Be catnip.

You can handle it.

Lol @ the Boudreaux, thanks for not saying Thibodeaux. I just I am finding it difficult letting her come to me. I just want to talk, see and hold her again. I know...in time things will come.

She has already sent a few text about getting to drive a big Dodge diesel truck and how she wants to get on. I told her that we will see and to have fun.


Thanks Coach.

[Greek]

Crap, I screwed up once again.

Not really. Actually, you got some valuable info. SHE'S AFRAID OF BEING REPLACED!

My wife was having issues with her computer late last night. She tried texting me and calling, but I didn't return any of them right away. I then replied back that I received the voice mail and text, but I was just getting back in from being out. I have the copy of the text below. I know I shouldn't talk about R but accusing me of seeing other women really hurt me.


W -I tried to call u but u don't answer. Hope everything ok!

Translate: I hope you weren't out finding with someone else, finding out that I'm not the only woman in the world.

M -Sorry I am just getting back in. Everything is fine.

W -Tryin to get my computer to get online and it won't .

M -I can talk you thru it to get it to work.

W -Ok call me

The computer problem was a ruse. She really wanted to find out what you did with your time.

Calling
(I helped her out and was in the process of telling her bye, but then she started with who I went out with. I said I went out, had a good time and needed to get off to bed. Bye)

W -I don't u just confirmed it u tellin "just out" tells me (meaning the with someone)

M -And am I not allowed to go out now?

W -No go out !!! But just beware u start
Dating I will too

M -Beware of what?

W -Never mind

Mind reading. Fear. Control. Cajun, she is not as sure of herself as you think. Be smart and strong.




Greek

[Greek]

I told her that we will see and to have fun.

NO YOU WON'T SEE. Boudreaux! She served you with D papers. If she wants a big diesel anything, she will buy it.

[CPCajun]

Crap, I screwed up once again.

Not really. Actually, you got some valuable info. SHE'S AFRAID OF BEING REPLACED!

My wife was having issues with her computer late last night. She tried texting me and calling, but I didn't return any of them right away. I then replied back that I received the voice mail and text, but I was just getting back in from being out. I have the copy of the text below. I know I shouldn't talk about R but accusing me of seeing other women really hurt me.


W -I tried to call u but u don't answer. Hope everything ok!

Translate: I hope you weren't out finding with someone else, finding out that I'm not the only woman in the world.

Calling
(I helped her out and was in the process of telling her bye, but then she started with who I went out with. I said I went out, had a good time and needed to get off to bed. Bye)

W -I don't u just confirmed it u tellin "just out" tells me (meaning the with someone)

M -And am I not allowed to go out now?

W -No go out !!! But just beware u start
Dating I will too

M -Beware of what?

W -Never mind

Mind reading. Fear. Control. Cajun, she is not as sure of herself as you think. Be smart and strong.




Greek

I see she is afraid of being replaced or me moving on to another woman. I am lost, how is she not sure of herself?

I told her that we will see and to have fun.

NO YOU WON'T SEE. Boudreaux! She served you with D papers. If she wants a big diesel anything, she will buy it.

True, but I didn't want to bring D up. I put the well see out there to see how she responds.She kept on going on how nice of a truck it was. I told her again to be safe and have fun, and have stop responding.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

. . .and have stop responding.

GOOD!

(btw, you're getting phenomenal advice here, from two of the forum's best. I pray you'll follow it).

Puppy

[CPCajun]

Ok I know its a hypothetical senario, the circumstances are not the same, but I do know my wife. This sort of relates to my sex thread. I know its reading into thins, and it may not happen , but as I said, this is how my wife has been in the past.

When my wife gets back from her trip Sunday, I know she will of sort of missed me. Given my 180's and she is starting to frenquent my "man cave" where I am living. Also she is texting and sometimes calling me every so often since she left.
I already planned to look my best. I have already shaved off my sideburns, something I grown since before we met. My W has alwasys dislike them. I also plan to go get some colonge to smell nice. It's something I have never sported.
I will wait for her to come to me and tell me how her trip was. I will listen and actively interact to her conversation. I am sure she may bring up the D papers, but I will divert the topic something else and keep things positive.

She may want to initate "sex" again. According to her it is sex not making love. I am not concerned anymore what she calls it. At this point should If things get "hot and heavy" , Should I and let the hormones and urge build in her or should I just "have sex" as it somehow appears to be something she needs to bond our relationship.

If it does happen, I don't think I could resist. I just wanted some thoughts.