CW- I will ask my friend if her perspective has changed at all but I think I'll wait a couple of weeks first.
WN- good explanation:
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I told him I would not be friends with him outside of our marital relationship, AND that my friends do not treat me the way he was treating me (living with his mistress) and stay a part of my life.
I guess I would say "my friends do not treat me the way you have, and stay a part of my life... Besides, why do you want to be my friend? YOU'RE the one who wanted to leave ME!" ok maybe that last phrase isn't so good. But it would be fun to say!
Geronimo- I do see from what you describe that the truth is interacting in a civil way with the ex is just not going to follow the same protocol every time. Yes, like you guys, stbxh and I agree on almost everything so far about S.
But it is realistic for me to expect that the exchanges will be painful or uncomfortable for awhile. We are human, our moods fluctuate, and you mention the discipline that is required to refrain from getting angry or too friendly or sad. I think it will be easier once OW is gone!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004