Need a Plan for My Marriage

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W came up to me again about going to Las Vegas. I just did not want to talk to her about it. She said since I have the tickets from the wedding we attended for a hotel that I could go in our car, and she has a rental from work. I find it funny she has all this money to do this stuff when she does not make that much. It must be from her parents or the OM.

Anyways, I do not want to go, and she has to follow the court order. I do not appreciate her trying to plan what I will do when she did not even tell me that she was going to go. She said we could plan different days with the kids. She also said all she wants is to take them to "O". I told her to take a couple of friends.

I asked her when did she plan to tell me about this. She said tomorrow and that it was for next week. I said she should have told me sooner. She said she planned it last week and did not think that she had to tell me about it. Yeah, right!

I do not plan to let her just walk all over me anymore. I told her I do not want to go with her. I am sure she wants to see the OM too while she is there. I don't care, but the kids will not go there.

Maybe, some people on this forum will think I am being a hard-a$$, but I don't think so.

She has made her decisions, and she will have to live with them. I will not just say okay to anything she wants right now. It is not fair to me or the kids.

She is causing problems with the kids too when they go to sleep. My D told her to get out when she was laying in S's bed. D thinks that her mom is showing favortism to S, and I agree with her. W makes it hard to get the kids to sleep because she just will not let them go to bed. She is spending so much money to make me look bad. It is only making her look bad, and the kids don't really respect her for it.

She also told me that I never tell her when I am taking the kids, and I told her that she does it to me all the time. The kids wanted to jump rope last night after she came home late from Target, and I went with them because I like to spend time with them. They wanted to go, so I did. I never take them far away without telling her. Come on! She is being rediculous trying to compare Vegas to jumping rope outside. There is no comparison.

I do not want to be with her. She is causing so many problems with the kids. It is tragic in my opinion. Just let them go to bed. I have no problems when she is not here. I wish she was not here at all.

I told her the only time that she talks to me is when she wants something, and I will not just agree with what she wants. I told her I don't have too. She said there is co-parenting, but she is not even trying to co-parent. What a load of garbage! She just wants her way. She does not even know what co-parenting is. Give me a break!!!

She is such a selfish person, and a poor excuse for a mom. It is all about her, not the kids. If she wanted to help the kids, she should quick treating them differently.

Oh, she was telling secrets with S about D, and it upset D really bad. D said it was very rude, and she should "get out" so she could sleep.

Both kids hate what is happening and STBXW just does not get it or care.

Anyways, I am doing okay even with this happening to my wonderful children because I have to be the better parent for their sake. I feel so sorry for them!!!