2) It doesn't make you feel better, really, because she doesn't HEAR it. Yeah, been there - ooohhhh I'm going to make a really good point here... and it doesn't penetrate. Because she has a different point of view. So you'll be just as frustrated after as you were before. And you'll feel more deflated.
Find other ways to work it out. Talk to us, talk to friend, walk, run, jump rope, get a punching bag. You DO need a release.
This is a part of the habits - we're used to resolving problems through talking. We're used to a partner that WANTS to work with us to solve problems, that is willing to compromise, that is in a marriage. That listens. And we'll keep going to that well over and over again unless we stop ourselves. Need to break the habits. She's changed the dynamics with a lot of intention. She's even getting coaching about how to do it, if you're right.
