Geronimo, sorry that I misunderstood! Ok well now I need to ask you how you mentally and emotionally deal with coparenting right now but I will also go back and read your thread in case you don't want to repeat yourself!
It's not the co-parenting that's hard - we tend to mostly agree on and are invested in how to raise the kids. And we both appreciate and value the role of the other in the boys' life.
How to cope - well, some aspects haven't changed, I go to work, I come home and I'm with my children.
This particular arrangement started in April when I moved back into the house. We signed the agreement, documenting this arrangement, in May. So - wow it's been longer than I realized - but it not so long.
Some weeks (like right after we signed the papers) we've had little contact. I'd get to her apartment, call, and she's send the boys down. Some weeks, I come to the door, she gets them out the door, and we talk briefly about things we need to. There is still a lot of emotion stirred up, so sometimes it's hard. And then there's weeks like this week where we've hung out as a family. Really need to manage the boundaries. Not sure where we're going to land up ultimately, but hopefully we get into a manageable cadence.
Things go a lot better when we tread lightly. So, have to resolve not to start a fight about bills for example, or give in to the negative emotion. Taking some discipline.
