The thing is... I am not suggesting you not bring up his affair.. I brought that up in my home EVERY CHANCE I GOT...
Every comment, remark, etc I got handed to me good or bad got the same response...
If my wife offered to make a sandwich I told her I would make sandwiches myself from now on that she wans't welcome to be part of this home as long as she was cheating
If she grumbled and told me how horrible I am being I would just tell her as long as she's cheating I am not at all obligated to be polite
I put a WALL up between me and her, and she didn't like that...
Cheating spouses like your H who want to cake eat are best handled by SHUTTING them out...
No, you can't stop him from cheating, but you CAN keep him from cake eating by witholding your emotions, family, life in general... share NOTHING with him as long as HE is sharing his marriage with a third party
You can't control him and what he gets from HER, but you CAN control YOU and what YOU hand over to HIM
This is part of why I don't reccomend fighting with him about OW, any emotion is going to give him an ego boost.. why would he STOP that? He won't...
But if you SHUT DOWN emotionally and don't GET UPSET... just state the harm clear and cold it will start to nag at him that you aren't responding to him...
Cheaters WANT to know you are in their pocket.. a lot of them threaten divorce just to get you to chase them...
So Don't...
I am not advocating divorce, I am advocating you NOT giving them ANYTHING from you... no emotional reaction at ALL
