Still chipping away at EA

[elvencat]

I still don't know about the two of you combating with H over him... It's just feeding his ego most likely.. I honestly think you would do better to DISTANCE yourself and your daughter from him rather than getting argumentative...

I dont' know what you consider a good note, so I can't comment on that part... To my mind though if he's still cheating and communication ends on a good note that's just validating him.. but again I am not in the room so...

Good note... he actually spent time contributing to a conversation with me rather than shutting down and tuning out, which has been his main mode of communication with me for about a year and a half now. This convo was more for my validation than his, but I can see the point you are making.

As far as fighting over H, I agree very much that it isn't doing any good to "fight over him". All I can say is.. I am doing my absolute best to not bring OW up.. and I'm getting a bit better at stopping myself each time I think about doing it, but the shock of seeing her there not 15 feet away just sent me into a tailspin. All I wanted to do was have a good 'ole catfight and I knew it would do noone any good.

I got hit with all the emotions that I've been doing my best to work through and put behind me and it got ugly in my head, so I called.. had I not, and she still had, it would've looked bad on her, but because I called, it looked like we were "fighting over" H while in my head I just wanted H to tell OW to remember she was the one helping to tear apart a family. Hindsight is 20/20. I'll remember if this happens again.