I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Geronimo, sorry that I misunderstood! Ok well now I need to ask you how you mentally and emotionally deal with coparenting right now but I will also go back and read your thread in case you don't want to repeat yourself!

Lola-what a relief to hear you also feel kinda bad for your ex but at the same time told him you can't be friends. I DO want to get to forgiveness (the gift we give ourselves!) but my old way of forgiving people was to take a break from them, process what happened, see things from their perspective, then voila- forgiveness. Obviously I need to find another way to do it since "taking a break" from seeing stbxh is not possible.

Mystik, I haven't visited your thread in awhile. I hope you are doing better! Umm...you might want to also read Confused Wife and WhatNow's thread to see how to deal with kids and interactions with their estranged husbands who are with OWs.I really have been humbled by their situations and admire the dignity in which they handle themselves. Confused Wife has to see the OW too often for my comfort! Whatnow's H is trying to strike up a relationship with her again while he is still with OW! And of course SeeingRed has been dealing with this crap for way too long but staying optimistic, being an awesome mom to her kids, and sharing everything she is learning with us!