lolawar,
Originally Posted By: lolawar
I feel like being friends with the stbx is saying what he did was OK. It isn't OK. What qualities do they have that you would want in a friend? Honesty- nope. Respectful- nope. Loyalty- nope.
Pretty much exactly what I told X when she approached me to be friends about 6 weeks after our D.
Originally Posted By: lolawar
On the other hand...it isn't healthy to harbor resentment..and forgiveness is for us too. right?
Exactly right, but forgiveness + no resentment does not = friends in my book.


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