Oh, I should add that what my H really wants is for me to be at home with daugher so that he can come and go as he pleases, but has me to fall back on when he wants to be elsewhere. Don't think he wants complete responsibility for her. Case in point: The night my coworkers saw him out kissing OW, he had hung out with daughter at our house the entire day. Then when she went to bed he left me stuck there with her and went out with OW.
Really, that sort of arrangement is a great deal for him but it stinks for me. So I'm not participating.
