But to get back to the R, I have to tell you Sandi that she is not showing me; she is offering me to touch. I will consider not touching unless invited but I'm still thinking that if that is what she was missing and I can show her that "it's back", maybe there will be less reason to leave.
Sandi, and I ask you specifically, if you are inviting someone to touch you by showing them a knot in a neck; a scar that has a bump; or even a pimple (which all require a touch to inspect), isn't that different than me "seeking or asking" to touch you? Doesn't that change things? As I said, if she is noticing changes in me emotionally; could this not be seeing if I changed physically/affectionately as well?
Allen and PDT, I know this may sound like mindreading but hear me out. Isn't my theory plausible? Not saying this is what's happening cause we don't know. What I am saying is that IF I DON'T RESPOND TO INVITATION, surely I would be validating her "D Opinion" of me as a withdrawn, unaffectionate husband and she won't live in a marriage like that. That is the crux of her poition in this.
Callasdad,
If you disagree, take it up with MWD. The concepts are all counter-intuitive, I'll grant you, but this is what she teaches, and this what we've seen work, both in our own sitches and those of hundreds of others.
