After 7-8 hours, my H texted "Well it is not fair to me or our daughter. Can you at least have her call me tonight?" This was about an hour ago and I haven't responded.
My interpretation of it is that it shows that he's still not taking responsibility for his actions - after a whole day of stewing on it he's still going to act like a teenager and blame me. That just proves the "addiction" theory. I have a younger brother who actually has a substance addiction problem and the behavior is similar - "I'm not responsible for anything but if you run tough love with me I'll blame you for everything."
The lawyer I spoke with did advise me to let H talk to our daugther on the phone - so perhaps I will comply with that request, though I won't go home or feel badly about not going home.
