Re-Connecting

[soul_mate]

I haven't been on here for a year or 2 but just got back on after some self inflicted R problems. Anyway I read your messages and wanted to give you my thoughts from my experiences. For starters your emotions and feelings are completely 100% normal. The way your wife is acting is very similar too a million other stories on here. You have gotten a lot of good advice in that you should not rush, back off, don't act on emotions or even show them.

The one thing I would suggest is turn the tables on her. Number one you need to get out of the house and make her wonder what you are thinking don't lay it out for her. I know its hard since you have the kid and all, but if you divorce you eventually will find the time to get out. Don't allow her to easily win you back make her fight for it. If she doesn't have to fight for it then it's not worth keeping in the long run. Stay positive. I know how all these suggestion are very difficult and the vast majority of people can't do them, but many others instead act on the overwhelming emotions. This is why so few actually are successful.

Be strong. Stronger than you ever have. Don't say things like I don't feel safe in the Marriage. Safe sounds weak. Men should not sound weak. We should not worry about being safe and should never say these types of things to a woman. The faster you can adapt to controlling your emotions and being independent the higher your chances are for being successful in getting what you want. And what you want is the woman that you loved not whats in front of you right now.