-Shortly after my last post, I found out my W was stealing money from our joint bank account (money was being deposited automatically from a teaching job that I do once per year and forgot about). I confronted her, via phone call, and when I did, she was over at Dbag's house, having "a nice dinner." So, I lost it. Said things that would make a sailor cower. And discovered, nine minutes later, that she had taped the entire phone call.
-later that night, two uniformed police officers showed up at my door, and arrested me as my kids were sleeping peacefully, charging me with one count of menacing and one count of domestic violence. So, I was handcuffed, etc in front of my neighbors, and spent two and a half days in the county jail. At my hearing, wife showed up with Dbag, his arm around her as I stood there next to felons with the word "Prisoner" on my chest.
-the day I got out, I discovered she had gone into my BUSINESS account and stolen a large chunk of money. Remember, she works at the bank. However, she was not on the account, and shouldn't have been allowed to do that. An investigation was started shortly thereafter, and the bank reimbursed me.
-she was fired from her job of 7 years at the bank shortly thereafter, and filed for divorce.
-I have a protection order against me, which means I cannot be anywhere near her without the presence of a uniformed police officer. I am not allowed in my house, which I alone am paying for.
-She is "allowing" me to see my children (!) two nights a week and every other weekend.
-I have been living in an extended stay hotel since May 1st.
-My colleagues at the hospital where one of my offices is located found out about the DV charge, and I was put on paid leave, even though they knew the charges were bogus. So I now pay two colleagues to cover my patients while I work to clear my name. Got some privileges back this week, but still waiting on the others.
-first divorce hearing was this Thursday. She agreed to drop the criminal charges, but is demanding that the protection order stay in place. Agreed that she will be out of my house in 60 days, and will find employment and a local apartment.
And that's my life. It's amazing how things can change in an instant. And how much things can change over a year.
Oh yea, and my first book will be hitting the bookstores in August. So that's good news. My boys seem to be doing ok; I'm showering them with love and quality time. I can deal with the loss of my marriage, but I don't want them feeling the effects of my wife's infidelity and actions more than they need to.
