WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

Journaling:

W came over to get some stuff for the kids; I was upstairs on the computer and she let herself in.

I came down and told her I didn't think it was appropriate for her to just come and go as she pleased in the house. She said she knocked and said "hello?" but I didn't hear it. I told her since we are going to be on opposite sides of a legal action that she shouldn't enter the house without me there or my permission.

She stated since she is on the mortgage as well, she "reserves the right" to come when she needs to. I told her this is no longer her residence, and that no matter who is on the mortgage, she no longer has that right since she doesn't live here anymore.

She sent me a note later saying she found out about a few times that I left the kids in the house alone for an hour and that she felt I need to make other arrangements in those instances. She stated that she felt the oldest was responsible enough but that the two youngest are not able to properly respond to emergencies. It was written like she wanted to document it for later use. I told her I left the oldest in charge with my cell phone for emergencies, and then noted a couple of cases where she did the same. Even left the two youngest alone for a time as well.

I said we can discuss her concerns but that she was not to represent the situation like I was the only one who did that without regard to our kids' safety. I also stated that I have NEVER left the two youngest alone by themselves, as she had done. She didn't respond.

I would never put my kids in danger, and only left them for one hour at a time when I went to meetings such as the one with the pastor. The oldest is in charge and I usually put a movie on (if it is not an early morning meeting when they are still asleep).

She's really reaching for some kind of leverage in our situation that she doesn't possess.