Detach vs Affair bust Allen A, Puppy please help!

[knightinneed]

Puppy, she was not like this when we were together, I can honestly say Puppy I killed alot of attraction with her by being depressed gaining weight and not handling finances correctly.

All the changes she wanted have been made. Meds, counseling, not drinking, going to church being a man of god. Also, just being a good dad and husband.

I feel that I have a fair share of blame in messing up our relationship. I would honestly want to try for DD1, because It wasnt always bad. We used to have some real good times.

All the complaints she had have been addressed.

Weight - lost 35
Finances- all caught up with a plan
Moving - To a better part of town - will be doing so soon
Drinking - basically quit
Smoking - going to quit that as well
Church - been going
Communication - Feel like i know my triggers well now
Excercise - do it every day
Being a better dad - to my other daughter

So, I have really took to heart all of her complaints and worked things out for me, ill be ok whether or not I lose her. But after just basically detaching and then noticing the aggressive approach you guys have on this forum, I thought well was I doing the right thing all along or does she have to hit rock bottom herself??

I dont know, i mean I do love her and well I was just gonna wait things out for court to be over, and then show her my changes and see what happened act as IF ya know. I mean I could go out and get me another GF no problem, I dont have to be desparate, but the fact that we are a family and have DD1 together I wanted to make sure I tried all I could before giving up.