embracing change

[Freckle6]

Hi stranger! Is he expecting you to help him move and pack as well? Hmph.

I agree he does sound done. HOWEVER, the same way you got from "till death do us part" to here, being done *now* doesn't mean he's done forever and ever. Not that I want you, or anyone, to site and pine for their S in the possibility that they may have second thoughts at some point, just know that done doesn't always mean totally done.

My H had a Realtor and was looking at houses to buy a couple of years ago. He had a long time girlfriend at that point and I was even expecting them to move in together in it. My S was telling me how Daddy was getting a new house with a bedroom just for him. Punch in the gut describes it perfectly.

At this point, I don't think any R talk will affect him at all. I remember sending one last ditch email and told him I was done fighting him on a D--that I didn't have it in me anymore and it was 100% not what I wanted at all, but if he did, I'd cooperate . Then I got kind of b!tchy in it and told him that he's turned into someone I don't recognize anymore and that if he ever saw DXXXXX(husband's nickname--a version of his middle name--his whole family calls him and he used all through school) to let him know that I had loved him, that I had tried, and that I was sorry but I just can't hold on anymore. Then I said, "Goodbye, GXXXXX" (H's first name that he uses for work and started insisting it was his "real" name). I don't know if it had any affect on him, but it did give me some closure. So, if you want to say one last thing for you, go ahead, just try to realize that it probably won't even register with him.