She has mentioned a few times that reconcillation after our dvorce is not out of the question.
TRANSLATION: "Play nice legally, and don't fight me on what I want, and MAYBE I'll consider getting back together with you at some point in the future."
No one's saying to be "hurtful" or "ugly," Resilient. What we ARE saying is, PROTECT YOUR INTERESTS.
Divorce, sadly, is a BUSINESS TRANSACTION. Look out for you kids first, yourself second, and your wife third -- in that order.
Stay civil and courteous, and let the lawyers handle the details.
Puppy
Originally Posted By: Puppy Dog Tails
Originally Posted By: DaddyLongShanks
Maybe "hates my guts" is one of the stages. I think its a denial thing. It was mentioned that anger allows someone to feel empowered, where they would feel guilt or shame instead. We all know with anger people tear things up.
Yep. All the more reason to use the standard of "What is The Right Thing to Do in This Situation?" instead of "Will This Make Her Angry? How will her Anger Make ME Feel??"
If they're going to hate you anyway, you may as well do THE RIGHT THING!
Puppy
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