yeah, I told him "You're looking at her through..." and he finished the sentence "tainted glasses" and replied "Yes"
Hey, we just had an earthquake in Toronto. My co-workers came running from their offices saying that the floor was moving! My co-worker said he'd thought it was his sinuses! Apparently I missed it, my floor didn't move. That's all I know for now, I imagine it's some minor tremor though...or it's God protesting the G20 Summit.
Good grief! I didn't know there was a fault line in Toronto area. Hope it stays a small one. We apparently get them here on the west coast, but haven't experienced one yet.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Apparently it was 5.5 on the scale and it originated in Ottawa, went through Metro Toronto and ended in NY, if I heard that correctly. But it won't stop Whatis...the Dbing must get through!
"planning to end the M" is not separated or divorced. Has, for instance, his W been informed of his plans? He sounds a lot like a WAH getting the next one lined up before bombing his W right now. Eek.
Yeah, having a confidante doesn't always mean she's a great person. Even 2 1/2 years after the A began Dan was telling me that his ow was "there for him to listen and support him when I wasn't".
Honestly? I said, I am sure she was, because you began to pour yourself into her and share with her and shut me out of your life. Hard for me to be supportive when you stopped including me in your plans, goals, dreams, or struggles. Or as MichelleLT says, "Grass is greener where you water it".
I know in your brother's case you said his W is a piece of work who has cheated on him among other things. But still...
He's a good man, he'll do what's right. But, I know in these sitches sometimes that can get really clouded. When you've been crapped on for years, and I mean years, it's so amazing to come across someone who'll treat you like a valued and lovable man. It's easy to twist that into being right. I'm here to give guidance and that's why he called me. I had the same thing, "OP understands me, we know what the other is thinking without having to say it" blah blah blah! Thanks everyone for your thoughts, it's helped me to think his sitch through as well!
He's a good man, he'll do what's right. But, I know in these sitches sometimes that can get really clouded. When you've been crapped on for years, and I mean years, it's so amazing to come across someone who'll treat you like a valued and lovable man. It's easy to twist that into being right. I'm here to give guidance and that's why he called me. I had the same thing, "OP understands me, we know what the other is thinking without having to say it" blah blah blah! Thanks everyone for your thoughts, it's helped me to think his sitch through as well!
Just to clarify, it was my W saying the "OP understands me...blah blah blah". I've got a reputation to uphold here on the DB board...not much of one but it is a reputation
I was told by a neighbour that our whole apartment building was shaking. Freaky stuff there my fellow Torontonian and tonight there are tornado warnings in Midland! Full day I'd say.
OK, topic for today: What do you do to stop yourself from ruminating? I took today and tomorrow off work as vacation, the weather has been kind of off so it was hard to really plan to do much today. Normally, if the weathers nice, I'll just figure something out and off I'll go. last night we had a wicked thunderstorm which woke all three of us up at 4:30 am. and I know I had trouble sleeping again. I had to be up at 7:00 am to take D13 to school. So afterwards I came home, had a few coffees and started thinking...oh oh, the thinking. I don't usually sit and ruminate over the past because my big bugaboo is the future! I know it's not good to do this but I do it anyway!Then I think "I'll journal, get it out of my system" so I journal and journal and then realize I'm writing all the same crap I've written a hundred times before, what's the point? Finally, I dropped my D16 at her boyfriends and went to get a haircut. I came home, took a short nap and now have the evening ahead to do whatever as the girls are at their mom's tonight. I'm thinking of going to a baseball game but it's a forty minute drive to get there and forty minutes back. When I'm tired and such I seem to have these ruminating episodes and with Adrenal Fatigue I can tire easily if I don't get a decent nights sleep. I feel tired and weak and then start to worry about the future..will I always be alone, who'd want me, how long can I stay like this, if I fall apart who will be there for me?....Do others have any tricks they use to stop themselves? By evening this will have passed and I will be feeling better, that's how it usually works. Today though I feel lonely, miss my family and, yes, my old life! I used to feel secure, my life was kind of mapped out for me and now it's not, I don't know what lies ahead. I was always so confident in my M, I was 100% sure we were forever...oops! Sometimes I wish I could just sit down and have a damn good cry when I feel like this but I don't know how to do that!!!! So what do others do to get out of this funk when it hits? Italy being eliminated from the World cup kind of makes me happy...but it's just not enough for some reason!
Apparently I missed it, my floor didn't move. That's all I know for now, I imagine it's some minor tremor though...or it's God protesting the G20 Summit.