Is your H still staying with you? have you read up on some MLC threads and articles? You should... sounds like your H is really going through some stuff.
I realized I wasnt the one who needed to pick my H up. But every once in a while I do give him a little hand... enough to make it a one line sentence and no conversation needed to back it up.
I like the last two points you said you want to mention to him. At this point, what do you have to lose! And maybe H needs to hear how you feel.