But I've always believed that when someone is seething with rage and lobbing insults, the best thing to do is remain calm and not sling mud back. So what I was trying to do was show her love (not romantic love) in the midst of the storm. Because I'm sure she expected me to throw insults and personal jabs back at her.
Puppy already commented on this, and I'll say amen to what he told you. As a woman I can also tell you that your W will not "appreciate" your loving calmness while she's slinging all types of disrespectfullness on you. You come across as being weak & spineless. Sorry to be so crude, but she must....MUST respect you as a man, first, then she must respect you as her H. She cannot do the second before she does the first.....and she cannot feel romantic love for you before she has the first & second in place.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
