The A was exposed last fall. His mom and best friend already knew about the OW and did nothing. I told my family and closest friends and they, of course, support me in whatever I decide. OW didn't know he was married, so nothing to expose there. I have verified as best that I can that there is no OW right now.

When we talked about the R several months ago, I told him I didn't want to jump right back in. That doesn't work. His IC agreed and said baby steps to repair the damage. H said he wanted to come back for the right reasons. I'm sure he is afraid of things going back to what they were when we were both unhappy and so am I. I feel that we have stalled recently and I want to push forward. Figured I'd try something different.

RNM: Yes, I am afraid to go dark.

Me - Faithful wife
H - WAH
Bomb: Fall/2009 - PA/EA with OW for 1 year
Both in our early 40's
M - 16 years w/ no kids
T - 21 years
Separated since July of 2008 - H living with his mother