Yup... I honstly would not even have replied to that...
Have you ever played poker?
This is the same thing, or teh same as any card game... righ tnow he's addicted so you can't show him your hand.. you can't show him what you're feeling or what your plans are.. you really need to leave him in the dark on where you are at now and where you are going as much as possible...
I don't ordinailly reccomend exposing at HIS workplace, I DO reccomend it at OW's workplace if there is one...
Mel, my default accountability setup is 10% WS and 90% OP... your H was vulnerable and OP took advantage, that's how it is in many cases... BUT he needs to be left to WORRY about CONSEQUENCES for a while.. leave him in the dark to SWEAT.. give NOTHING AWAY right now... hold onto everything youhave.. you wil be tempted to drop info in his lap in a rage or whatnot,b ut that will NOT HELP YOU
He hasn't even offered to END the AFFAIR has he? I think you would have mentioend it if he did...
Not a good sign... Hold back... keep him shut out for a while and let him sweat
