LOL! Too true! Gee......complaining about your consequences for your own actions? Surprise, surprise!
I know! He chose to walk away and then has the balls to complain that he doesn't see the kids enough. Hmmmm, sounds like a consequence of your choice to me!
BobbiJo, I thnk in your case Dan needs to feel the consequences of his actions. A little less access to his family seems to be what is needed.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn