Yeah, having a confidante doesn't always mean she's a great person. Even 2 1/2 years after the A began Dan was telling me that his ow was "there for him to listen and support him when I wasn't".
Honestly? I said, I am sure she was, because you began to pour yourself into her and share with her and shut me out of your life. Hard for me to be supportive when you stopped including me in your plans, goals, dreams, or struggles. Or as MichelleLT says, "Grass is greener where you water it".
I know in your brother's case you said his W is a piece of work who has cheated on him among other things. But still...
