Stuck and don't know how to proceed

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I blew it today. I got VIP tix to a major event this afternoon. Sent H a text to see if he wanted to join me. We had talked about this event a couple of weeks ago. He replied. Thanks, but sorry, no. People on vacation and we are just swamped.

I responded, K - Too bad.

That was it. I am going to go anyway of course. I have a gut feeling that going dim/dark is going to backfire on me. I can't explain why. I already have a life, but now it feels more empty. My emotions feel all over the place this week.

Hi SF,

I tend to think that going dim/dark is helpful in more cases than not. If your H doesn't make the effort to see/contact/interact w/you, I think dark is the way to go. Do you think this will backfire b/c you are afraid to do it? It is difficult, but I find that it gets easier the longer you do it.