Just a quick update – things are going really great with us…W was out of town for an extended work trip and didn’t feel any trepidation/anxiety about her being gone.
My birthday was a bit of a letdown (was on Father’s Day as well - she had taken a red eye to get back in town to celebrate but was really exhausted as she didn’t sleep on the flight) – me and the boys were also pretty tired as we spent almost 9 hours at an amusement park the day before. We went to a baseball game in the 90 degree+ heat, so were all spent by the end. Good thing is that she acknowledged it and we’ve made this whole week “my” week.
While she was gone, got my first tattoo (my first nickname for her in Korean (she’s half-Korean) – she has the same (my nickname in Korean) that she got when we were first dating) – was kinda my way to show that I’m getting over the A (not that I will ever forget) and that I see us in the long-term. Can’t believe I’ve gotten my first tattoo at 43 (and of course now contemplating a few others)!
We are going away together this weekend alone (with an ML “guarantee” from her…) which I’m looking forward to, and have a nice dinner planned…just trying not to make this the “be all end all” evening and to have fun with her (as I do tend to get serious and anxious when ML is on the agenda).
I’m seeing a real change in her – those moments that would have usually caused big fights she’s backing away from, and I’m being more sensitive to her needs, too…this really feels like that elusive “2nd honeymoon” people have talked about.
Main issue for me is how to continue to feel “safe” with each other (and those more minor triggers that come up at times) and ensure we don’t end up back where we were (disconnected/”roommates”).
Thanks for listening, NLG (need to change my moniker, that’s for sure).
