yeah, i'm torn. good question, nm.

i want him to do this himself, without much input from me. i feel like he follows me so much. at the same time, it seems like we could slip apart forever if i don't let him know that i do still want him!

I think i'm not going to say the top star in my last post. i will talk about our name and:

* I want his influence in our lives
* His going to Ethiopia or whatever affects us. Period. What he does affects us (baby and me) because we're all connected.

And I think that's all I need to say. I don't want to counsel him too much. I was thinking of telling him that happiness is a choice and I think he's looking for peace. I could mention that. But I want him to figure things out himself.

What do you guys think? I'm thinking of talking with him on the weekend.