It's not so much about saying things you wouldn't say to their face, it's more about having the time to give a well thought out response instead of off the cuff remarks that you might regret saying in the heat of the moment.
For me it's simply about not having to speak to him, not worrying about getting emotional, and having info documented. My X is great for trying to say I have agreed to something that I didn't. So if it is all in writing then he can't do that. I also don't have to listen to him, the man who walked away from his family for the OW, complain about being a part-time dad! When we talk on the phone he always tries to work that into the conversation. Wow, I feel really sorry for you X! Ha ha
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
