That's why that popped into my mind - and again I may be WAY off base, but it's a thought.
It was a good thought! And I considered it. The nerve test showed no nerve activity below the knee.(not a loss of feeling but a loss of ability to move it, the nerve did not activate the muscles to move when the brain told them to. The test was grueling b/c they stuck probes in and then would stimulate the nerve and test muscle reaction via the probes) Definite nerve damage. Without an injury to explain it though, we are left with a mystery. This is better than some of the other things the Dr.s were ruling out: brain tumor, brain plaques (MS), among other serious things.
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The doctor said that a growth spurt might have triggered it! ???
This is a definite possibility. He grew 7 inches in 6 months last fall. He has stretch marks on his back! And he is very skinny. 5'9" and 116lbs. The Dr. said it is possible the nerve stretched/snapped or its growth didn't keep up with him. He also suspects he could have injured it and didn't notice.
DS's emotional state and irritability is another story!!!
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
I just re-read my cainer profile. Since Sunday, I have had the desire to cut and run from all of this. Don't know why, can't see anything that might have triggered this desire to be done with all of this other than maybe boredom. And then I read this:
Mars Squares Mars You will first start to notice the effects of this transit around 25th June 2010. You will continue to experience this influence until 29th June 2010 after which time it will rapidly diminish. Another moment, another difficulty? No. Another moment, another opportunity. There may be plenty to feel uncomfortable about but the sky insists that you don’t have to keep playing out the same old drama and going round on the same old treadmill. A constructive change can begin. A heartfelt, helpful commitment can be made. This won’t instantly alter your situation beyond all recognition but it will be a vital step in the right direction. You are beginning to wonder when the sky is going to take another swipe at you. For some while, you have been under attack; not necessarily from a person or an organisation but perhaps from an idea, a fear or a fretful frame of mind. You keep feeling as if your only viable option is to make some wild, dramatic and excessive move. When you actually try this though, it doesn’t work. Nor will it. What’s required now is patience, tolerance, faith and perseverance. You need to remember that this is not ’make or break’ time. Why? Because there is no option to ’break’. You simply have to make a commitment to the venture, challenge or decision you currently face. There’s no avoiding the intensity of the situation you’re so caught up in but nor is there any reason to expect things to go wrong. The sky speaks of a date with destiny. All your life, you have known that one day, you would be in a position like this. And all your life you have been preparing to make it a success. This may be a tense time in your life and a period during which your temper is easily frayed and conflicts with others come to the fore. But if you do your best to cling to wisdom and resist the urge to be led by anger or frustration you will find that it is also a time when you can lay the foundation for a more solid, stable, successful future.
Hmmmmm.....
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
I just received and email from H: FYI I live by myself.
The news makes me very happy. My skin is tingling. I am grinning. The news makes me sad. He must be miserable. The news makes me scared. There is a lot on my list that I want to do before I have to start dealing with him again. I don't know if I am emotionally ready to deal with him again. I got to liking the darkness! (I was so afraid to go dark, so this is ironic) SO! What do I do with this info!
2 weeks ago I met with him to reiterate my stand. I told him he knew where I stood. He said "Yeah, dump her and come home". I said "No, I think coming home is off the table for now. You need to live alone for awhile." And here we are.
Curiosity is killing me. How did this come about? Did he finally tell her how he felt about me? Did she give him an ultimatum? (start the D or leave) Does he plan to continue to see her or are they done?
Based on my reactions right now, I won't reply right away. (but I'm dying to know more details.)
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
ok first I was tripping over the Cainer forecast. Then I read this!! I am holding breath and smiling huge at the same time! I want to be happy for you but like you said you need to know more details! Crossing my fingers!!
WN have you been thinking or planning how you would deal with this scenario? Other than him living alone for awhile? I bet you have!
All I know is that from the infidelity forum, they caution us not to take them back right away in case they are just having a spat with the OP because it can take months to finally end an affair...I don't know much about it other than you are smart to want to ask questions and then to move slowly and make him live alone for awhile!
I will be watching and learning from you, oh wise one! (oh wait- I forgot for a second that my stbxh is moving in with OW for a year long lease and divorcing me! Oh well I will still be watching and learning just to learn!)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
WN have you been thinking or planning how you would deal with this scenario? Other than him living alone for awhile? I bet you have!
NO! I haven't! I didn't dare hope. If anything I thought I had loads more time. Not sure how to proceed from here beyond doing what I have been doing (dimness)
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(oh wait- I forgot for a second that my stbxh is moving in with OW for a year long lease and divorcing me!
This A has been going on for 3 years. I have known for 2.5 years. We have had 3 separations. He has dragged me through a lot of crap (admittedly b/c I wasn't DBing until this last one). I guess what I am trying to say is if he wasn't sooo selfish and thinking only of himself, he might have let me go before he showed such commitment to OW.
Can't wait to find out why he is living by himself.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
The nerve test showed no nerve activity below the knee.(not a loss of feeling but a loss of ability to move it, the nerve did not activate the muscles to move when the brain told them to. The test was grueling b/c they stuck probes in and then would stimulate the nerve and test muscle reaction via the probes) Definite nerve damage. Without an injury to explain it though, we are left with a mystery.
Poor guy! Nothing like being an MD pin cushion!
You continue to AMAZE me with your strength and grace, WhatNow! I don't know HOW you do it. So much $@*! to deal with at one time!
They say that God never gives your more than you can handle. You are one STRONG woman, girl! The question is, if you were weaker, would you get to deal with less?
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The doctor said that a growth spurt might have triggered it! ???
Originally Posted By: WhatNow
This is a definite possibility. He grew 7 inches in 6 months last fall. He has stretch marks on his back! And he is very skinny. 5'9" and 116lbs. The Dr. said it is possible the nerve stretched/snapped or its growth didn't keep up with him. He also suspects he could have injured it and didn't notice.
DS's emotional state and irritability is another story!!!
So he was outgrowing new clothes before you could get them home and get the price tags off? OMG! Poor guy!
As for his emotional state...well that's perfectly understandable! Puberty. Medical issues. Dad leaving. All challenges in and of themselves, but all together at the same time?!! Like being run over by a Mac truck...2 or 3 times!
Prepped the nerve test response last night and didn't hit submit until this morning. Now I see this.
WAY TO GO, WHATNOW!!!!
Woo-hoo! Loud applause! Shrill whistle!
I know your head must be SPINNING!
But I'm with the others - play it cool, tread slowly. He couldn't wait to run away 6 months ago, now he's back, knocking on your door.
Don't give him the prodigal son treatment just yet. You both need time to process this.
But I'm curious as well. My first thought was, "Had he planned to tell her over pizza on Father's Day?" You were wise not to go. An audience is the last thing you would have wanted.
As for the Cainer forecast - it's uncanny!
Just 'keep on keeping on' for now, because just when you were ready to throw in the towel, you get this.
It's like the tale of the wannabe Texas wildcatter in the '30's who spend two years and all his money drilling on a piece of land that was supposed to be filled with oil. Disgusted and broke, he sold the land for a little bit of nothing and got out of the oil business. The new owner came in, drilled in the SAME hole, went down 18 INCHES...and struck oil - one of the largest reserves in East Texas.
You've drilled and drilled, WhatNow. I have a feeling that gusher's closer than you think!
