This is where I want to get to...I don't think I would EVER thank stbxh though! Even if I remarry! I never want him to think "see? This was all for the best! everyone gets their happy ending! It wasn't so bad that I did this to her and S!" He needs to think "I am so stupid and so sad to have lost newmama. I feel horrible for doing this to her and my son. How could they ever forgive me? I will never treat anyone this horrible again. I was very selfish and will regret my actions for the rest of my life."
Thank him for breaking your heart and destroying your family? NEVER!
Thank him for making you dig deep and rediscover the incredible woman you are? YES.
It's easy to lose yourself in coupledom and put your life on hold for someone else. There was a time when I didn't think I could breathe without him. Now I know I can do just about ANYTHING without him - just like I did before we met.
I got too comfortable, too settled. Lazy.
Now I'm focused on the future and living the potential I'd almost forgotten I have.
Will he regret losing me should he snap and run? HELL yes! I've even got the speech ready.
THAT'S what you want, newmama. To transform yourself into the woman you were meant to be, to impact the lives you were meant to touch. That he won't be a part of it is HIS OWN DAMN FAULT! He's got no one to blame but himself.
