Number 8. I think i understand how you feel about the family vacation. Wife and I went to a wedding together last weekend (her family) and I kept imagining how life will go out without me. Not only do I lose my wife but I also lose an entire family. Is this what you are feeling?
Me: 45 WAW: 45 | M22 | T25 | No Kids Nov 09 W Filed | Dec 09 Separation Mar 17 2010 Divorce Papers Signed | Divorce Hearing Cancelled Moved back home May 2010 PA Confirmed June 2010 | W left Dec 7 2010
My W's family is all overseas, so she really just has mine. Still that impact doesn't make her take stock of what she does each time we separate further.
Number 8. I think i understand how you feel about the family vacation. Wife and I went to a wedding together last weekend (her family) and I kept imagining how life will go out without me. Not only do I lose my wife but I also lose an entire family. Is this what you are feeling?
Yes, you've described very well what I was earlier unable to articulate. It's so painful for me to think about their being together and enjoying a family vacation while I'm home by myself. I do feel like I've lost them on top of losing him. I am fortunate to have my small immediate family, but I feel like it's even more devastating to lose H and his family after losing my mother a few years ago.
I'm sorry that you've had this feeling, too. It's miserable, is it not?
My W's family is all overseas, so she really just has mine. Still that impact doesn't make her take stock of what she does each time we separate further.
Go figure~
Is she close to your family? In other words, does she know what she'd lose?
Well, not sure what's going on with my marriage, but it is time to leave the boards.
I've enjoyed reading about the possum (sp?) and your growth No8. Mostly though, I pray to God alone that you find happiness grow in your relationships and beyond.
Well, not sure what's going on with my marriage, but it is time to leave the boards.
I've enjoyed reading about the possum (sp?) and your growth No8. Mostly though, I pray to God alone that you find happiness grow in your relationships and beyond.
You're leaving???? That's too bad! I've enjoyed your guidance, support, and advice.
Possum will always be a part of my life, and I hope the memories of him will get you through any tough times you may have with uninvited wild animals that cost you thousands of dollars in home repairs.
On a more serious note, thank you for everything, especially your kind words. As for the prayers--send them on. I'll never turn those down. I'll do the same for you.
Please take care of yourself, and stop back by any time.
What's the best way to find out that your spouse is filing for divorce?
When he sends it to you in an e-mail, of course!
H said that he wanted to give me a "heads up." I now officially hate the phrase "heads up."
I can't say that I'm surprised. I tried to hope for the best but expect the worst, and I think this helped me keep my sanity, have a positive mental attitude, and still be a realist through these last 6 months. I haven't completely given up hope yet, either, but I'm also not going to have any romantic notions about miraculous reunions.
Fortunately, I had contacted an attorney not quite two months ago, so I simply responded to his e-mail with this: "Please tell your lawyer to have any paperwork delivered to [my attorney's name] at [insert name of our town's best divorce law firm here]. Thank you for the heads up. Hope you're enjoying your vacation."
Here are the comments and responses from interested parties upon hearing the e-mailed news:
Black best friend: "Are you serious? Oh, hell no. [edited] this mother [edited]."
White best friend: "Seriously? That is just so typical."
Sister: "WHAT? Are you KIDDING me?? That is the biggest load of bull$h!+ I've ever heard. What the hell is wrong with him? He is an @$$-chewing mother [edited]."
Fellow nurses at sister's medical clinic: "Take yourself a big dose of laxative and get that piece of $h!+ out of your system."
And, of course, this post would be dreadfully incomplete without WORDS FROM FATHER:
"Now just what the hell is wrong with him?"
"Somebody ought to [edited] this son of a [edited]."
"Is his stuff still there? It is? Well, his time for free storage is UP. It goes NOW."
"Oh, this mother [edited] is unbelievable."
"The best thing he can do for hisself [actual word used] is to WALK and KEEP walking."
"He BETTER not think he gets anything out of this. Like your house. He won't even try if he wants to keep his [edited] intact."
"Good riddance."
"Get over him. Move on. Forget about this [edited edited edited edited edited]."
It's also pure serendipity that I already had an appointment with IC scheduled for today. I'll post her thoughts later.
More information will come as it becomes available.
Productive evening with gaggle of girls last night. Treated to dinner and excellent liquid treats. No tears involved last night. Only fun, laughter, and comforting compliments. A few unkind things may have been uttered here and there, but I can't stop my friends from speaking their thoughts, now, can I?
As for today, I had an excellent first session with kick-ass attorney. Two hours of excellence, in fact. Will post later, as I am with saintly uncle (never to be confused with lunatic uncle) for some comfort and validation. He is most displeased.
