and you're right, it's a death except your spouse didn't actually die. would it actually be easier if they did? my apologies if that sounds offensive but i do wonder.
No offense taken by me. I don't know if one is easier than the other. They both suk. The hurt runs so deep. On the one hand you never see them again and on the other hand....you never have to see them again.
It was so hard for me early on to hear the "GAL" and "take care of you" stuff. I wanted to take care of everyone else and fix my M.
S L O W L Y, I did star taking care of me and things changed. Not with regards to my M (he didn't come and sweep me off my feet with profuse apologies etc), but how I viewed H, myself and what I have to offer those I love and that know me. BTW, there was lots f face falling involved here
As hard as all this is, if you can do 1 thing everyday (or if it's 1 thing a week) to take care of yourself and move towards some goal that you have, those baby steps add up.
Do you have any goals for yourself? Something you would really like to accomplish and be remembered for?
