And so now, he's angry, very angry, at me, for telling anyone, saying why is this anyone else's business? So does that mean it backfired?
NOPE -- it means he's human.
Seriously, did you think he would LIKE it???
One of the misconceptions about DBing, in my opinion, is the "Do what works" thing. The problem is that people mis-define "works" as being "what doesn't make her/him angry" and "what makes her/him act nice towards me." Instead of as "what moves me further along down the path toward a mutually-healthy and committed marriage."
Sometimes one has to take a short-term "hit" in the "nice" department in order to solidify a healthier, longer-term gain.
