I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Thanks for both of your replies! First, I think stbxh would be open to meeting with a counselor because he was last year.
Second, I guess if I ask him, I should clarify what I mean so he doesn't get the wrong impression and think I am criticizing his parenting! Thanks for pointing that out, gr8!

Here is what I mean: agreement for what we talk about, how the interactions go....and I don't even know what I mean right now. It's like agreeing we will contact the other if A happens. When we exchange S, we will inform the other of B and C.

I don't know. I am just rambling. Still looking for a thread where the spouses are co-parenting and being civil to each other. I keep seeing where the exwife is being demanding and unreasonable or the exH abandons his kids and barely shows up... so maybe it is unrealistic to think people can share a kid 50% each and be civil after divorce.