Met with the lawyer today. This just plain sucks. This is not the way I wanted this to go but there's nothing I can do at this point except preserve myself and my relationship with my son.
Pain....that's all I can say about how I feel. I'm just in absolute, miserable pain.
I'm right there with you buddy. I just got my papers last week. I have been doing everything wrong for 5 months trying to work on this like the books said. Plan dates, buy gifts, send flowers, be romantic. Funny thing is she even told me not to do these things, but I didn't listen. I thought it was the right thing to do to show her how much I loved her. She called it smothering and it drove her away.
There is no more smothering going on, but I think her mind is made-up too. I feel like I am on a freight-train to hell. I never thought it would come to this, but it has and now it is time to deal with it.
The only good thing is that my in-laws have been supportive of me in the few instances I have contacted them. Her Mom said I can come and visit and stay at her place any time I want to. Her brother said we will always be family no matter what happens. Those were very supportive comments.
Make sure you protect yourself financially so she can't run up the debts on you and spend lots of time with your son. Find some friends to talk to. It helps!
I'm not going to give-up hope until the papers are signed, but I fear that will increase the length of my pain. My new motto is: "Prepare for the worst and hope for the best!"
