Live in the Now!!

[sandycay]

It is the only way other than emailing... donkey and I can exchange information at this point.

That said when he used to say random stuff I just ignored... and the no calling after 9pm was put in place unless an emergency. He calls and text late because he is checking up on you. He is controlling you by making you feel like you must answer and explain his whereabouts.

Ignore the non-essential text. When he tells the kids to speak to you, tell them your on your way to the bathroom... " tell him to send an email if it's important". He'll stop.

I think these people get bored and have to have their time filled all the time so when the cows and ho's aren't available or whatever distraction these people are on....they contact us to fill the void.

Your a void filler for him and you need to put a stop to it because it doesn't help you at all. You spend a lot of time thinking about Dan because he is in your life everyday... and that's not what healthy divorced people do.

Your not being rude, your establishing boundaries. Stop calling and texting after 9 and stop answering calls and text that are nonessential. Ask yourself that question. Is this essential that I answer. If he leaves a VM then answer in a text. If he ask another questions.... is it essential? If not ignore. Teach him that you won't respond.