It is the only way other than emailing... donkey and I can exchange information at this point.
That said when he used to say random stuff I just ignored... and the no calling after 9pm was put in place unless an emergency. He calls and text late because he is checking up on you. He is controlling you by making you feel like you must answer and explain his whereabouts.
Ignore the non-essential text. When he tells the kids to speak to you, tell them your on your way to the bathroom... " tell him to send an email if it's important". He'll stop.
I think these people get bored and have to have their time filled all the time so when the cows and ho's aren't available or whatever distraction these people are on....they contact us to fill the void.
Your a void filler for him and you need to put a stop to it because it doesn't help you at all. You spend a lot of time thinking about Dan because he is in your life everyday... and that's not what healthy divorced people do.
Your not being rude, your establishing boundaries. Stop calling and texting after 9 and stop answering calls and text that are nonessential. Ask yourself that question. Is this essential that I answer. If he leaves a VM then answer in a text. If he ask another questions.... is it essential? If not ignore. Teach him that you won't respond.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
It's not so much about saying things you wouldn't say to their face, it's more about having the time to give a well thought out response instead of off the cuff remarks that you might regret saying in the heat of the moment.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Yeah Mish, I have had several "Draft" messages in my phone where I fire off a hasty reply, leave it in drafts, and delete without sending ten minutes later. Good impulse control device vs. talking directly.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
