The dream..... Clearly Nathan is feeling the pressure from his dad. But as long as he is still having fun, I'm not sure it's as bad as the dream seems to be. I think dreams amplify everything. The other good thing is that usually they are forgotten quickly... so try not to dwell on it!
I'm glad I don't have text messaging...well, I do but I have no idea how to send one...nor do I want to. It just seems to give the ex so much ability to stick his nose into your life whenever the urge hits him. Who needs messages numerous times a day from someone you're trying to limit contact with and then you feel you must respond. How do you say "please limit your TM's to..." Tough to do. Anyway, just a thought because I hear/read so many people inundated with TM's from their ex's. Glad it ain't me! I hope your son is well soon. This crazy up and down weather is just a haven for viruses.
Yeah Wii I have talked about it a little bit with my IC. Because I am a polite, considerate person (most of the time) I have a hard time with TMs.
When someone asks a direct question, such as, "How is it going" or "What are you guys up to tonight" I find it hard to just not respond at all. Because if I was face-to-face with someone and I asked, "How are you doing?" and they just walked away I would be hurt and p!ssed...
So it feels rude to me if he texts something specific and I don't respond. Need to work on that.
Sorry to hear about the kid BBJ! I know it makes us feel so helpless when our kids are sick and suffering and we have no support from the other parent. But kids are tough cookies and especially age 7+ they're stronger than we think. They could be down hard two or three days straight and the next day they're up and running again like nothing happened.
Agreed, if the fever persists bring him to the doc, it'll make you feel better too.
As for Dan...I think it's a common senario all around. They want the divorce, they get it and yet they're still angry at us. In some ways though it's satisfying to see they have trouble moving on without us. For me it would be worse if she left and never looked back...
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
BBJ, I wasn't criticizing you or your texting, I'd just noticed that a lot of people have this texting issue. The spouse leaves but somehow stays in continual touch through texting. It'a hard to get them out of your head when they are in this continual texting mode. It's just too easy for them to always be there. I think also texting is so effortless that they can just whip things off without much thought. Anyway, I guess there are both pros and cons to texttopia!
Some people like not having to talk directly to the ex or have to see them face to face. They like being able to type things they wouldn't normally be able to say face to face. That's what I hear anyway!
Some people like not having to talk directly to the ex or have to see them face to face. They like being able to type things they wouldn't normally be able to say face to face. That's what I hear anyway!
Oh, so they will say things if they feel more anonymous that they would not say on a phone or face-to-face?
Sounds like poor integrity. It's a crutch, then? And that's a pro?
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I have a hard time with TMs.