Hi AA. There have been a few instances in the last week where she "presents" herself in such a way that NOT touching her would be a rejection. e.g's Last night holding her neck and asking "Is this a lump"? Monday was "do these scars look better? Will this color fade? This middle one seems rough. See?" And "is there something on my back?" (a pimple) "Can you get it?"
It just feels like she may be looking to see if the door is still open since I said "OK" to her bringing home Sep paper; GAL'ing; being strong and confident about ME; and just going about my business.
A friend asked "Does she KNOW how you feel since you don't talk about the relationship?" I said yes, she knows I don't want a divorce. We discussed it when she dropped the bomb. Then he asked "But if you are doing all these things to get your life together and not pushing back on Sep Paper and such, how can she know you haven't changed YOUR mind if she has doubts?"
I had to agree with him. So, in the future, anytime she brings up anything about separation, my response will be "If that's what you want". I'm hesitant to add "because that's not what I want". Your thoughts?
How do I make it clear that the door is open and I am NOT agreeing with her position nor looking to get out myself?
