Re-Connecting

[Greek]

This is why a guy's night out would be a good idea, as a not-so-subtle reminder (by your ACTIONS, not your WORDS) that "Hey, babe, the ball is still in YOUR court, I'm not stupid."

Puppy

Mos def on the guys' night out. Go out smelling good, meeting friends at a sports bar to watch replays of today's soccer matches.
Greek

[Greek]

By the things i've read in this forum I guess I need to take all this with a grain of salt??? Not sure how to reply to these types of messages.

Her WORDS mean NOTHING to you at this point. Only one thing does: her ACTIONS, over time.

DO NOT RESPOND for a few hours. Then, reply with "Sorry, been a crazy day, just saw this. Glad you guys are having a good time. Hey, what time will you be home from work tonite? I wanted to go out for a couple of hours, and shouldn't be too late." (or some such)

Puppy

^^^^^ Yeah, that's better than mine. Go with this one.
Greek

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Us humans are path-of-least-resistance people. Let's face it, we don't like to do the heavy lifting -- take the more difficult path -- if we don't have to.

Right now, FFH, your wife is facing a painful choice: give up my friendship with OM, or risk losing my husband. And her FIRST attempt here is very likely going to be "Is there a way to KEEP my husband, without HAVING to make this choice?" So she's going to be nice to you (possibly even initiate sex), and/or try the incremental approach to whatever your few "dealbreakers" are going to be. IN other words, "Can I 'be nice' my way out of this, without having to quit my job, without having to hurt OM's feelings with a no-contact letter, etc.?"

You need to hold out for the better fruit, or you will be splitting these distinctions forever (how much contact is too much contact? can I still see OM, but only in a work setting? How about a social setting, but with others present? How about only if the barometric pressure is over 30.00mb?? etc.)

Puppy

Puppy

[Puppy Dog Tails]

This is why a guy's night out would be a good idea, as a not-so-subtle reminder (by your ACTIONS, not your WORDS) that "Hey, babe, the ball is still in YOUR court, I'm not stupid."

Puppy

Mos def on the guys' night out. Go out smelling good, meeting friends at a sports bar to watch replays of today's soccer matches.
Greek

PERFECT. And WEAR NEW COLOGNE and/or NEW SHOES.

[Fightingforher]

That would be nice to get out but I have my son until pretty late. I do have an event that my son and I are going to on Friday without the W. We were all invited but I decided to do this on my own.

[Fightingforher]

So she is sending me messages. " I hate to ask but I would really value sometime just the 3 of us".

[Greek]

So she is sending me messages. " I hate to ask but I would really value sometime just the 3 of us".

Remember, you are VERY busy right now so you will not be able to answer this for at least an hour.
Greek

[Fightingforher]

Do you think spending time as a family will send any mixed messages.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

So she is sending me messages. " I hate to ask but I would really value sometime just the 3 of us".

Remember, you are VERY busy right now so you will not be able to answer this for at least an hour.
Greek

Agree with this. And then I would send:

"I'm afraid it's no longer that easy." -- and then go dark again for a few hours.

Puppy

[Puppy Dog Tails]

That would be nice to get out but I have my son until pretty late.

Can you get a trusted sitter?