Since I have been served, I still want to work this out. I will get a L to protect myself, but I do not want to be too hard as to just drive her away.
Not a good plan, C. Now that she's "gone legal," your best course is to play good ol' country hardball. Let your ATTORNEY handle all of that; you stay civil and courteous, and just tell your wife "I prefer to let my attorney handle that stuff -- I trust him."
It is a classic, CLASSIC mistake to take a position of "Maybe if I'm nice to her, she will not screw me legally." Appeasement doesn't work -- in geopolitics, nor in divorces.
Puppy
Thats what I plan to do. I know playing nice will get me nowhere but screwed.I know what ever I do, W will get angry that I got a L. As of now I am just going to play fair and have protection I need on my side. When the actual time comes for it to be final, then gloves are off. I will fight hard.
In the meantime I will still try to salvage our marriage, as of now I am still following the game plan and back away and do nothing to persue her.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
